In a culture saturated with sexual content, the
Japanese are increasingly choosing abstinence. Can the rapidly ageing society
encourage millennials to start having sex again?
A recent
survey conducted among unmarried Japanese found that 42% per cent of men and
44.2% of women aged between 18 and 35 have never had sex. The poll, conducted every
five years by The National Institute of Population and Social Security
(NIPSSR), also revealed that among those aged 18-35, nearly 70% of males and
60% of females were single. Most of them expressed a expressed a vague wish to
get married ‘some time in the future’ but 1 in 3 are not looking for a partner.
The
numbers are alarming, especially in relation to the 2010 results of the same
survey when only 36.2% of men and 38.7% of women said they were virgins.
Head of
NIPSSR, Futoshi Ishii, explains this shift in terms of a disparity between
young people’s expectations and actual lives. “They want to tie the knot
eventually. But they tend to put it off as they have gaps between their ideals
and the reality.”
A hyper-aged society
Low
fertility rates, combined with the longest life expectancy on the planet, have
resulted in the world’s highest number of elderly citizens. At present, 1 in 4
Japanese is over 65 and the population continues to decline at an unprecedented
rate. It is believed that in less than a century, some 40% of the citizens will
be 65 or older.
In a
terrifying prediction for Japan’s dystopian future, researchers from the Tohoku
University estimate that there will be but one child left by the year 3776.
As the
shrinking workforce threatens the county’s growth, the impacts of society’s
ageing can be seen in every step. Every year hundreds of schools close down to
become care centres for the elderly, and abandoned houses are a common and
depressing sight.
At
present, 41% of Japanese seniors live with their children, but it’s a far cry
from 80% in the sixties. As family ties erode, the hyper-modern society becomes
increasingly individualistic. In a phenomenon known as ‘parasite singles’,
millennials often choose to stay in their family homes – not to care for the
elderly parents, but out of convenience.
No sex in the city
Dedicated
to work, or consumed by entertainment, young adults have little or no interest
in sex. The so-called “herbivore men” remain abstinent out of choice or
timidity. Their lack of sexual drive, as well as no interest in marriage, are
believed to be linked to the economic downturn, as well as a crisis of male
identity.
In Japan,
masculinity still hinges on a man’s economic status and his ability to provide
for a family. On top of the sluggish economy, increasingly independent women
make it even harder for men to fit in the role of “carnivores”. Feeling
inadequate, Japanese males turn to falling in love with fictional characters,
fall prey to depression, or simply put their love lives on hold.
According
to Professor Keisuke Nakashima from Kobe City University of Foreign
Studies, Japan’s extreme working culture
is also a major factor.
The gender gap trap
One
positive finding of the recent NIPSSR survey is that for the first time in
Japan’s history, more than 50% of women return to work after having their first
child. However, the drop off is still much more pronounced than in other
developed countries.
In the
past, marrying within the same company was a standard practice and many women
entered the workforce with the sole purpose of finding a spouse and then
resigning.
Now,
ambitious Japanese women see marriage as a real threat to their careers. “The
bosses assume you will get pregnant,” explains 32-year old Eri Tomita. Filing a
resignation is often expected, but as for many it’s “not an option”, and they
refrain from relationships altogether. This is known as matahara, a neologism
derived from the English words “mother-harassment”.
Even if
women were encouraged to combine work with child rearing, their chances at
succeeding would remain slim, as the average Japanese husband contributes only
an hour of his time to household duties.
Young
Japanese singles may live individualistic lifestyles and value career over
marriage, but societal norms are still rigid. Many fear entering an informal
relationship and, without marriage, there can be no children. While in the US
over 40% of babies are born out of wedlock, in Japan it’s only 2%.
The real solution
When it
comes to the ageing of society, as well as the nation’s low sex drive, Japan is
definitely at the forefront internationally, but these traits are not exclusive
to Japan. The hype over the recent survey is part of a government strategy for
raising awareness of the issue, which, in fact, is a disease of affluence
affecting many countries. For example, a recent survey in Britain revealed
almost comparable levels of sexual abstinence.
However,
in a country where an electronic body suit can replace human intercourse, and a
bride can throw a wedding without groom, there’s more than one reason behind
the nation’s falling libido.
Prime
Minister Shinzo Abe is implementing policies targeting the elderly, as well as
providing government incentives to young parents. However, without a profound
change in the working culture which discriminates against women, he will fail
to raise the fertility rates from 1.4 to 1.8 by 2025.
A change
in corporate tradition has to be implemented from top down, but it is no
priority for older, male executives who can’t see the long term benefits of
diversifying their workforce. Women will have to wait for regulatory action
from the government, and PM Abe is unlikely to oppose the powerful business
lobby anytime soon.
Zofia A.
Reych
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